How can we heal?

There are two memes on social media that I ‘like’ every time I see them – you can’t heal where you were broken.  And the other – just because you forgive them, doesn’t mean they should still have access to you.

The first galvanized me into action after spending way too long in a situation that was not healthy for me.  The second is what I tell myself when others believe that I should behave a certain way to prove that I have forgiven someone.

What the memes have in common is that they are reminders that my responses, actions and choices are personal to me and don’t have be approved or championed by anyone else. 

The person you live with the longest is yourself, extend yourself the grace and respect to make the choices that are best for you!